The Key to Surviving Mistakes is Learning and Growing from Them
In 2015, I moved to Loudoun County to escape a bad relationship. I was 31 and had three daughters ages 5, 4, and 2. At first, we slept in hotel rooms or at friends’ houses—sometimes, in my car. I found a homeless shelter in August and spent four months there. I made friends, and my girls were doing OK.
But, I still wanted a traditional family. So, I went back to my ex. But, that was a mistake. So I decided once and for all to put him behind me, to put on my big girl pants, and to break free.
No single mom in Loudoun should have to put her children at risk.
THE NEXT CHAPTER
Today, my daughters and I are living in a quiet two-bedroom apartment in Purcellville. I realize now that if I hadn’t fallen so far, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I understand that you make mistakes in life. You just need to take that, learn from it, and grow as a person.
With faith and persistence, I have a full-time job, my own place, and three wonderful daughters who love me unconditionally. I have a new hobby; the kids are into swimming; and I am looking for a church home for my family.
I know it’s going to be hard at times—I am going to struggle. But I know there are others in a lot worse situations than mine. I have friends and a support network. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel.
My hope for the next five years is that my children learn to love themselves first. I want them to accept themselves and to stay connected to their sisters. They need to know that it is all up to them to do what they want to do. And I hope that we can all do our part to help End the Need in Loudoun.
As part of the Community Foundation’s Faces of Loudoun campaign, Loudoun Now is publishing monthly articles highlighting men, women and children who have found a helping hand when they needed it most. Learn more or donate to help End the Need at FacesofLoudoun.org.